Half-assed

What I thought was a promising start to a relationship has become just kind of baffling. In three weeks we've gone on only one actual date, and the last time I saw him he was kind of... cold. If he's still interested, he has a weird way of showing it. If he's not, I wish he'd actually say so, because I don't want to keep this pretend-flirting thing going; I'd want to let go and go look for someone else.

So, I have no idea where it's going. He'll be out of town until next Thursday. When he gets back I'll call and be insistent in my request for a date. Come to think of it, I should probably message him the day before he gets back, or else he'll make plans and I'll lose out again.

Guys, a lesson for you: don't half-ass things. If you're interested in someone, show it. If they ask you on a date, but you're busy, don't put the onus on them to call you again later and figure out when you're free. They already psyched themself up to asking you out; it's unfair to make them do it again later.

And if you're not interested in someone, let them know it. It's not nice to tease people with the possibility of a relationship that you have no intention of getting in to. I don't believe you can or should be friends with every person you've ever met. Sometimes you have to let people go, for good or for a little while until they can get over you.